Relations take a lot of work

Relationships - Relationships can be really complicated at times....Sometimes I think to myself "What's the point of trying to maintain a new relationship when they take so much effort?" I have a very dear friend of mine who's in a similar boat as I am. We are both in our late 20's and still have not given the opportunity to fall in love with the most amazing man ever and get married. It's a daily prayer of mine and I keep hoping that one day it's going to come to pass. Last night I was out with this friend and she's been dealing with a lot of guy drama lately and I'm just going with the flow of what's happening in my own life. We started talking about eharmony and how she doesn't feel like she should have to sign up for a dating site to meet the man of her dreams. I personally felt the same way for awhile and realize something needs to change. I do believe in a great big God, but I also believe that he gives us a brain and different ways that I can fall in love other then waiting for that one man to just land on our door step. One observation that I've made it that ..... DATING and RELATIONSHIP are not talked about in church and if it is talked about people make it seem like you are committing a carnal sin or something. Relationships are a beautiful thing and it breaks my heart to see why it's not talked about in a nice way. It seems that if you mention anything about dating to anyone at church they cringe and look down on you. C'MON PEOPLE WAKE UP! God freaking created us to LOVE and to BE LOVED and relationships are very near and dear to his heart. He created US TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP with HIM. Yeah, not all relationships will work out and sometimes you may walk away wishing things had turned out better, but no matter what you can still turn back to our creator. I am seeing that the single women in the church are having to step up and pursue the man. Why on earth should I have to pursue a man????